Comments on: I Stopped Feeding One of My Sons Today

By: “Grown Up” What’s that mean really?

“Grown Up” What’s that mean really? — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 23:13:14 +0000

[...] Then I wondered what I meant by that. I mean he’s been off on his own for 3 years now at UT. For a year before that, he was pretty much free and had to buy his own food. [...]

By: Kelly Wilson

Kelly Wilson — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 19:33:47 +0000

Yeah Ron, you are right I’m sure. My son is likely different from yours. Actually both of my sons are different than each other. I don’t think we can measure how good a parent we are by this situation. My sons are now 25 and 27, I learned one thing for sure, parenting is a learn on the job, job. It’s all trial and error. I agree with Eric Fry, likely he will want to learn to how to shop for and fix other foods as he gets sick of the real easy stuff. As long as he has a fridge, toaster oven and microwave, he won’t starve.

By: Eric Fry

Eric Fry — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 19:16:28 +0000

Well, PB and bread is good survival food, but it gets old fairly fast. I would imagine he’ll be a bit more interested in learning some culinary skills after a semester of PBJ’s and ramen noodles!

By: Ron

Ron — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 18:36:20 +0000

Your son and my son are obviously very different people. Or you’re just a better parent. My son has less than no interest in cooking. We’ve given him the opportunity to learn to cook and all it has created is a great deal of eye rolling and heavy sighing.

The dorm has no kitchen either. He is free to use our kitchen at home if he wants to cook. They can have a microwave in the their dorm room. It is possible for him to get a meal plan at another dorm nearby, but he doesn’t want to.

The situation we have created is just like it will be when he is on his own. So he gets to learn what it is like. If he doesn’t like it, then we can change the plan. He’s making the choices and gets to deal with the consequences.

By: Kelly Wilson

Kelly Wilson — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 17:39:53 +0000

This is a silly article, sorry, you can’t be serious? The dorm has no cafeteria but it does have a kitchen, correct? I raised two sons who are now out of college and living on their own. The best thing you can teach your son is how to cook and shop for the meals he likes himself. Why not help him plan a meal he does like? He can cook for the family at least 1 night a week. I remember so well my younger son in his senior year cooking us homemade pizza’s, taco’s and burritos. I recall bringing my older son to Trader Joe’s when in his 2nd year of college he was in a school apt. without a cafeteria. We found all kinds of good food in small quantities for him to purchase and make relatively easy dinners and feed himself something other than fast food. Funny how when they fix it themselves they seem to eat more of it.

By: MattjDrake

MattjDrake — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 17:06:44 +0000

That is a good idea – I forget how disorienting it was to suddenly lose all the structure in my life when I went away to school.

By: Suzi

Suzi — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:54:31 +0000

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By: Easing them into life « Stuff From Hsoi

Easing them into life « Stuff From Hsoi — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:35:31 +0000

[...] them into life My friend Ron stopped feeding one of his sons [...]

By: hsoi

hsoi — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:20:24 +0000

That’s pretty cool. I hope it works out well, and in the end it prepares him for life on his own. Good luck.

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