End Of The Year Post

My friend Stephanie did these questions and they are a pretty good outline for an end of the year post.

1. What did you do in 2008 that you’d never done before? Formed an LLC, started two online businesses, went to SXSW, created a video 2 series.

2. Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Don’t think I really made any, and I’m not sure. I’m thinking I will make some goals, which are like resolutions. I made a goal to quit my job today, and didn’t do it.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth? No.

4. Did anyone close to you die? No.

5. Did you visit anywhere exciting? Vegas, which was exciting. L.A. which was fun but not really exciting.

6. What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008? A product I can sell.

7. What date from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? 07/14. That is the day I launched Distinctions For Life, my first online business.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Starting my two businesses, Distinctions For Life and Glamour Apprentice.

9. What was your biggest mistake? Dropping Glamour Apprentice after my partners didn’t do their part. I should have done that business from the start, and maybe I would have accomplished my goal by now.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? No. Wow, isn’t that interesting.

11. What was the best thing you bought? My AR-15 sticks in my mind. But I’ve bought 2 HD video cameras this year that were pivotal.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration? My wife of 20 years. How to put this so it doesn’t sound horrible when she reads it. I realized this year if she died there are qualities of her personality and character I don’t think I could find in anyone else.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? Guy K. Twice.

14. Where did most of your money go in 2008? Launching businesses.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? Launching businesses. Hence the money.

16. What song will always remind you of 2008? Mmmm. Brad Paisly’s “Online” or MSTRKRFT’s “Easy Love”.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? Happier.

ii. thinner or fatter? Thinner, but I need to watch it.

iii. richer or poorer? Richer. I think.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of? I wish I’d shot (photography) more. Kind of funny considering what I’m doing now.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of? Browsed the dream instead of acting on the dream.

20. How did you spend Christmas? Uneventfully. The most low key Christmas we’ve ever had. Did do my first volunteer work at my church Christmas Eve. Well unless you count being a small group leader.

21. Did you fall in love in ’08? Yes, again for about the 100th time in 20 years.

22. What was your favorite TV program? Bones or Chuck. Oh, and I watch VH-1’s The Pickup Artist.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? No. Hate takes too much energy.

24. What was the best book you read? The Game, by Neil Strauss.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery? Brad Paisly.

26. What did you want and get? Just about everything materially. An AR-15, which I’ve wanted for a long time. Membership to FrontSight, which I’ve also wanted for a long time.

27. What did you want and not get? A Kindle. But decided I wanted one two days ago.

28. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I don’t remember. I was 43. I’m going to dancing class for the last time for awhile this year.

29. What’s one thing that would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? If DFL had been a runaway success.

30. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008? I actually got hipper this year. Bought more cool shirts than I have in years and focused on looking good. Or at least having clothes I can dress up in to look cool. I blame The Game.

31. What kept you sane? The Mrs.

32. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Sarah Palin.

33. What political issue stirred you the most? Gun Control. That’s why my AR is named Barak.

34. Who do you miss the most? I didn’t lose many people. I’d have to say I miss my co-worker Brian. Been “working” too much on my own.

35. Who was the best new person you met? John Watson. He’s the new partner in my studio and the nicest naturalist I’ve ever met. One of the nicest guys period.

36. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008? How to open. Internet Marketing. I’m not too old to pull out the dream box.

37. What are your New Years Resolutions for 2009? That’s for a whole other post.

We’re Still Like Newlyweds

My Bride of 20 years
My Bride of 20 years

Today is my 20th wedding anniversary. Twenty years ago today the Mrs and I walked down the aisle at the Kingwood Church of Christ, in front of our friends and family. My grandfather, who passed away a little over a year ago, performed the ceremony. I did most of the crying during the process. My dad pointed out afterwards that I’d put the ring on the wrong hand.

A week or so ago I said to my wife we were still like newlyweds. Why? Because I’d just asked her if she wanted to go with me to put gas in my truck, and she’d said yes. Newlyweds like to be around each other all the time. And I still like being around S alot. We just like each other’s company. Even after 20 years and when we should have run out of stuff to talk about.

I also said it because we have sex on a daily basis. We figured it up and we’ve done it 3000+ times. There have been time due to illness, travel, and low hormones we haven’t keep it up daily, but we figure we averaged 3 times a week for our whole married life. We’ve definitely emptied out the jelly bean jar, if you’ve heard that story.

The Bearded Lady

I know I shouldn’t look for logic from a teenager, but the eldest some times seems retarded. He says he’s never getting married because marriage sucks. He says it’s like a bearded lady.

In old carnivals they used to have a bearded lady as part of the freak show. The shuckster at the door would convince you it was the greatest, coolest thing you were ever going to see. Then you’d go in and it was just stupid.

But when you came out you wouldn’t tell other people it was boring because you didn’t want to look stupid. To E, marriage is the bearded lady. It sucks for everyone, but they won’t tell anyone else it does because they don’t want to look stupid.

Of course this isn’t true, and while lots of people have bad marriages, E’s parents don’t. They have a great one. He sees that everyday, but still believes marriage is bad.

What’s the Secret?

My guess is some readers of this post are asking, “So what is the secret to 20 years of marital bliss?”

I’m not sure I have an answer. I think good marriages are good because they contain two good people. It is more a function of who you are as people than anything else.

You need to be positive and self-sacrificial. You need to guard yourself against negative habits, attitudes, and views other people will try and put on you. Don’t hang with people who are constantly bitching, moaning and complaining about their spouse. Don’t join in. Instead try and focus on the good stuff and tell other people that.

You are going to get board, mad, sad, and depressed. Deal with it, its part of life and it doesn’t mean you have a bad marriage. Give each other some slack and carry them when they are down. Just hope you don’t both get down at the same time.:)

Lastly I just want to repeat something I whispered in my bride’s ear 20 years ago, tears rolling down my face at our wedding.

“I ain’t gonna stop loving you for nothing, Suzi”

Valerie Whitaker & My AR-15

I bought a day after Barak Obama was elected president from Talon Arms and named it after Barak. I mentioned this in the past, but hadn’t posted any pictures. Well now I will.

I was scheduled the Sunday after I bought it shoot with nude model Valerie Whitaker, so I asked if I could bring the rifle. She said she’s shoot with anything I brought.

The problem with posting the images her is she’s naked. That is a problem right? I’ve avoided posting nude images on Reactuate because not everyone who reads it wants to see naked women. But here are two that have all the naughty bits covered.

Valerie Whitaker & AR-15 Valerie Whitaker & AR-15

If you don’t mind tasteful, artistic nudity and want to see the whole rifle – oh and all of Valerie – you can got to my other blog/website GlamourApprentice.com

FrontSight Member Now

Well I finally did it. I joined FrontSight as a Legacy member. If you look at their website that is a $9,900 membership, but I got a direct mail piece that let me get it for $1,900.

I’ve been considering becoming a member since Feb 2007 when the Mrs and I went for the 4 day Defensive Handgun course. But the cost to course ratio was never right. I wanted at least Advanced Handgun and Practical Rifle. I’d also have liked the One Day 30 State Handgun license class.

Well the Legacy doesn’t have the CHL class, but it did have all the other classes and then some. And as Dr Piazza says it cost about the same as one course. So I’m a member now and need to find time to go to Nevada and train. Don’t really want to go until after Feburary anyway having froze my ass off at night last time.

I bought an AR-15 and need to learn how to use it.